5 Ways To Make Your Date Feel Great

We of course want to make the other person feel great on our date; if they feel great they will associate that feeling with you and want to keep you around.

In this blog I am going to discuss 5 ways you can make the other person feel great on your date

1. Play a game

Playing a game with the other person on the first date can add an element of fun and enjoyment to the date, and make the situation feel less serious and less formal.

There are 2 types of game you can play:

• A physical game

• A conversational game
  

If you are out walking or moving around, you can introduce a physical game

For example, you could suggest something like who can throw a rock closest to a buoy in the water, or suggest a short race around a landmark.

If you are sat in a bar or restaurant you could suggest a conversational game.

For example, you could suggest a game of ‘who’s most likely’, this is a fun observation game where you would pick certain people in the room who you think best matches the topic.

For example, ‘who’s most likely to take the longest to get ready?’ or ‘who’s most likely to be a millionaire?’

When suggesting a game you want to make sure to make they are light-heated and fun and not too serious, and make sure your date is comfortable doing this and it is appropriate to match the situation of the date and not out of context.

When you do these types of activities, it may release some endorphins and adrenaline, which are feel good hormones, which can add to the overall positive experience of the date when used correctly.

2. Give genuine compliments

Everybody loves a compliment!

A genuine compliment is when you show sincere appreciation of something, and have no intention of benefitting yourself.

You can always find something to give a genuine compliment about!

You don’t have to like everything, you just need one thing that you genuinely like, and simply compliment it.

It will have more of an effect if you compliment something that they have made a conscious decision about, like the style of their hair, or the clothes they are wearing.

By complimenting something they have made a conscious decision about, not only will it make them feel good, but it will also reassure them that they have made the right decision and show that you appreciate the effort they have made for you.

3. Ask positive provoking questions

Positive provoking questions are questions that seek out a positive response from the other person.

The questions generally include positive words such as

• Like

• Favourite

• Prefer

• Best

• Enjoy
  

For example

What is it you like about…

What is your favourite…

Which do you prefer…

These types of questions will get the other person to talk about the things they like, and get them to think more positively.

If they are thinking more positively, and talking about things they like, they are more likely to feel better and have a better time on the date.

You can read more about positive provoking question in our blog called "10 Fun Questions To Ask On A First Date"

4. Break the touch barrier

Breaking the touch barrier and making physical contact with the other person on a first date can release endorphins and help build up the attraction between you both.

It should go without saying, that the physical contact should be appropriate, and not intrusive for the other person.

Acceptable places to start off with would be:

• The upper part of the arm, between the elbow and shoulder

• The upper to mid part of their back

You can use this if you are walking through a doorway or a tight space, or walking though a restaurant or bar. You could also take their hand and support them if you are walking down stairs.

Or use high fives, or games like rock paper scissors, if appropriate, to break the touch barrier with your hands.

We all know that even the slightest touch from someone you find attractive on a date can make you feel good. Use this weapon appropriately and it can quickly take your date to the next level.

5. Use their name

As in the best selling book, ‘how to win friends and influence people’ by dale carriage says “a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound”.

During your date regularly use their name in conversation. This is the simplest way to make the other person feel good, but often the one that is most over looked.

When you use peoples names it shows to that person that they are important to you.

People can often do the hard work of remembering the other persons name, but then often forget to use it.

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