10 Fun Questions You Can Ask On A First Date

During your first date, you will usually go though the typical ritual of asking questions to find out more information about each other

Such as,

"What do you do for work?"

"What do you do in your spare time?"

"Do you have any brothers or sisters?" etc etc

This is all normal and great to start off a date and get to know each other a little better.

But these are just questions that gather basic information and are not too fun to answer!

Once you have gathered the basic information and done the essential small talk, it’s a good idea to then move on to questions that provoke more of an emotional response - and the emotion we want to provoke, is a positive one!

We do this by asking positive provoking questions!

Positive provoking questions are questions that encourage a positive response from the other person.

These types of questions generally include positive words such as:

• Like

• Favourite

• Prefer

• Best

• Enjoy

For example:

"What is it you like about…"

"What is your favourite… "

"Which do you prefer…"

These types of questions will not only help you to get to know the other person more, but they will also get the other person to think more positively and to talk about the things they like.

If they are thinking more positively, and talking about things they like, they are more likely to have a better time on the date.

If they are having a better time on the date they are more likely going to want to keep you around (hopefully for a second date).

Quick Tip:

Before we move on to some examples of positive provoking questions, a quick extra tip on asking questions is:

The more specific the question, the easier it is for the other person to answer.

It is easier for the other person to recall information, when the question is more specific and detailed.

With a more specific question, the other person has less variables to consider, making it easier for them to think of an answer.

The last thing you want to do is make your date feel uncomfortable and awkward because they can’t think of the right answer fast enough to your question because it is too broad and they have too many options to consider.

For example, think of answering these questions yourself, and which out of the 2 options do you find easier to answer and recall.

Option A - What is your favourite song?

Option B - What is the song you have listened to the most this month?

Option A - What is your favourite drink?

Option B - If you could only choose one drink to drink all night at a party, what would it be?”

Unless you have already thought of an answer to these questions before, I am assuming both option B questions were easier and more fun to answer.

When thinking of positive provoking questions, think are they specific enough and have enough detail in the question so that my date can answer them easily?

Here are 10 great examples of fun questions that you can ask on a date to get the other person thinking more positively, talking about what they like and having more fun…

1 - If you could do any job in the world, and every job in the world was paid the same amount of money and worked for the same amount of hours, what job would you do?

2 - If you had to go on a 10 hour road trip tomorrow morning and you could only listen to 1 song on repeat for the whole duration, what song would you choose?

3 - If you won a competition, and you could go on holiday anywhere in the world for 2 weeks with 1 other person, all expenses paid, where would you go and who with?

4 - If you won £10,000 today in a competition and you had to spend it all by this time next week, what would you spend it on?

5 - If you could go on 3 separate dinner dates (not in a romantic way) with 3 different celebrities, who would they be?

6 - If you could take part in any reality tv show or game show, which would you choose?

7 - If you had to plan your ideal birthday for this year, all expenses paid for, and you only had 24 hours to celebrate, what would you do?

8 - If you could only drink one alcoholic drink for the rest of your life, to suit all occasions, parties, chilling out, going for meals out etc, what alcoholic drink would you choose?

9 - If had to have the same breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday for the rest of your life, and you had to repeat the same 3 meals everyday, which 3 meals would you choose?

10 - If you could wake up tomorrow and be an expert at any skill, what skill would you choose?

Quick Tip:

If you are thinking of asking any of these questions, make sure you have interesting answers to them yourself too, as the other person is most likely going to fire the question back at you.

If they ask you to answer the question first, this is probably because they do not know how to answer the question themselves and want you to take the lead.

In this case, answer the question first! Don't respond with "I asked you first". This is only going to make them feel more uncomfortable than they already did in the first place, leaving them feeling negative rather than positive.

Now, as you may know, even with these great examples for questions, asking questions and starting a conversation is only half the battle. Keeping the conversation flowing is another thing in itself. If you are interested in some key essential tips on keeping a conversation flowing, we also have a blog on this topic named ‘3 Ways To Keep The Conversation Flowing On A first date’. You can check out that blog now by clicking the link.

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